Day 3 ** 4/20/2022

Ephesians 5: 25  "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her."

Oh man. That's a tall order. And love me everyday? Even on the days when I am just pretty unlovable? An even a taller order. 

I absolutely take it for granted. The little things that Mike does to make my life easier. He fills and sets my coffee maker every night, even though he has never ever poured a cup for himself. He grocery shops. He takes out what we are going to eat for dinner in the morning, so it was defrosted by the time I got home from work. More often than not, you will find him cooking dinner.... I will do the dishes, if he doesn't load the dishwasher before I can get to it. He does laundry, pumps gas, drives me to school most days, and shows up with flowers at pretty regular intervals. 

He is living out the role that God designed him to have. 

He's the ultimate protector. Any noise? He checks it out. I swear, that guy sleeps with one eye literally open....I exhale loudly and he's immediately on one elbow, asking "What's wrong? Are you okay?"

So that's why it's hard for me to wrap my head around this "just for now" days we are having. I am finding that he needs me to fill some gaps.

On day three, he's tired. Like "Kar, it's drive-across-the-country-without-stopping tired," so he's in bed. And I am sitting here thinking, whoa, this is not what I am used to. 

But I am reminded that the Bible also says, "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do the Lord."

Now it's my turn. I will check the doors and turn off the lights and let the dog out and make sure the cars are locked. I will find ways to make his days a little less hectic, make him a little more comfortable.

Whoever said marriage is 50/50 probably wasn't married, because it's 100/100. And when one can't give 100, the other fills in the gap. Just for now. 

So if you need me, I will be probably wandering around Publix, looking a little lost. I will be listening to every exhale, asking "Are you okay? Do you need anything?" I may be pumping gas. (Okay, probably not...let's not get super crazy here).  But I will do my 100% so that he can gather strength to be back to 100% as soon as possible. 

After all,  we are also reminded that "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."  I think that's a pretty clear picture of what is expected, not JUST for now, but ESPECIALLY just for now. 



 

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